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Mindful Mondays: Mental Routines for the Mindful Road Warrior September 22 2014 no responses
Last week, I introduced a new short series for Mindful Mondays with a post titled Travel Tips for the Mindful Road Warrior. To be honest, when I started writing that post I realized I had more to share than one blog post could accommodate – hence, this series. Last week’s post focused on the physical routines that I follow when I’m on the road and several readers shared what they do to keep themselves in shape on the road. Thanks for that!
Today, I’m focusing on the mental routines that (I hope) keep me clear and focused when I’m travelling for business. I do a lot of listening when I’m out there in both coaching conversations and in presentations I’m making in leadership development programs. It’s super important that I keep the mental chatter and distractions to a minimum so I can really focus on the people I’m with.
No matter what your job is, it’s probably important for you to give others your full presence and attention. That can be a huge challenge in the age of 24/7 distraction and it can be even more challenging when your typical operating rhythm is disrupted by being on the road.
Here are some of the routines that work for me to keep me mentally focused when I’m on the road. The first is what I call the “Killer App” of Mental Routines in my new book, Overworked and Overwhelmed: The Mindfulness Alternative. The rest are what I call little habit hacks that I’ve found really useful. Please do share your favorite routines to keep yourself mentally focused by leaving a comment on this post.
What Leaders Must Learn from the NFL Fiasco September 18 2014 one response
The speed and volume of the emerging fiasco facing the NFL has been breathtaking. In the first football weekend after the League’s response to the video of Ray Rice punching his fiancé, there were players with similar charges against them scheduled to play on Sunday. One was pulled just before game time; the other played.
The Vikings’ Adrian Peterson was suspended for Sunday’s game because he was indicted for child abuse a couple of days earlier. After the Patriots beat the Vikings soundly without their star running back in the game, the team reinstated Peterson for this week’s game. Then Radisson, one of their corporate sponsors, suspended their support. At 1:30 am the following morning, the team suspended Peterson again.
Meanwhile, a star player with the Arizona Cardinals has been arrested for domestic abuse, the NFL has recruited four prominent women to advise them on how to move forward and Tuesday night they staged a fashion show in New York complete with models from Victoria’s Secret to promote their new line of women’s apparel.
There are so many things that leaders can learn from this fiasco. The dangers of hubris, the need for transparency in the age of social media, the challenges of becoming huge in a relatively short amount of time all come to mind. All good lessons for sure but there is one lesson that I think leaders must learn and take to heart from the events of the past couple of weeks. It’s the requirement that leaders and their organizations be consistent.
Mindful Mondays: Travel Tips for the Mindful Road Warrior September 15 2014 no responses
My work requires a lot of travel to meet with and present to clients. As the recent news stories about high altitude disputes over reclining seats on airplanes suggest, business travel can be stressful. That stress can eat you alive if you let it. Over the years, I’ve adopted some routines that have helped me stay healthy and sane when I travel for business. I thought I’d start to share some of them with you today. Let’s call them travel tips for the mindful road warrior.
As I discuss in my forthcoming book, Overworked and Overwhelmed: The Mindfulness Alternative, I think being intentional about your routines in four big domains – physical, mental, relational and spiritual – can help you show up at your best most often than not. What I try to do when I travel is keep up my routines as much as possible. It requires some preparation and flexibility to do that but I’ve found the pay off to be worth it.
Today, I’m sharing what I’ve learned about the physical routines that work for me when I travel. In the weeks to come, I’ll share the mental, relational and spiritual routines that help me stay more mindful on the road. Of course, I don’t think I have a monopoly on good ideas. Please share any tips you have to share for the mindful road warrior in the comments section at the end of the post.
The NFL Shows That Culture Change (Or the Lack of It) Starts at the Top September 12 2014 one response
In the annals of interesting timing, it doesn’t get much better than an article that ran in the Financial Times this past Monday morning. It was a piece titled, “The HR Guy Cleaning Up NFL Locker Rooms” and described how the League’s new head of HR is on a mission to get rid of bullying, homophobia and racist language in the workplaces of the NFL’s 32 teams. As the new NFL CHRO, Robert Gulliver, said in the article, “Football is special and important, but this is also a workplace and we have to reinforce the idea that there are certain standards of workplace conduct.”
Nice sentiment. And then, as anyone who was exposed to cable news or the internet over the past week knows, on Monday afternoon the celebrity gossip site TMZ released the video of Baltimore Ravens running back Ray Rice knocking out his then fiancé (now wife) in an elevator. NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell had suspended Rice for two games a few months ago when another video clip showed him dragging his fiancé out of the elevator after knocking her out. Hardly anyone felt like a two game suspension was enough punishment but Goodell stuck with his decision on Rice. He stuck with it until the second video of the punch became public. Within hours, Rice was cut from the Ravens and suspended indefinitely from the NFL. And now we’re down to a case of what did Goodell and the League know about the Rice case and when did they know it? The timeline will be investigated by a former director of the FBI.
Which brings me back to the Financial Times article. In opening the piece, the columnist Andrew Hill writes that “even by the thankless Sisyphean standard of such culture-change programs, the National Football League is beginning at the foot of the hill.” Later, in summing up the task before the HR chief Gulliver, Hill writes, “So if you are standing at the bottom of the mountain, worrying about the long ascent, remind yourself that the worst thing you can do is to delay starting the climb.”
Fair enough, but you can’t expect to make the climb by yourself. The challenge facing Robert Gulliver or anyone else responsible for a culture-change program is that there has to be alignment between what you’re asking people to do and what those same people see from the top leadership. The hypocritical, craven way in which the NFL has handled the Ray Rice domestic abuse case renders any meaningful chance of culture-change mute. Culture change doesn’t start with a program, it starts with top leadership. And, in that respect, the NFL is sorely lacking.
What’s your take?
Join the OOTMA Launch Team and Receive Six Exclusive Benefits September 10 2014 no responses
New research shows that the smart phone equipped professional is connected to work 72 hours a week. According to the American Psychological Association, the number one source of stress is the job pressure of a 24/7 world, so it’s no wonder that 48 percent of Americans report their stress level has increased over the past five years.
It doesn’t have to be that way.
I’d like to invite 100 of my readers to join the OOTMA Launch Team and help us spread the word that being overworked and overwhelmed doesn’t have to be the norm.
In Overworked and Overwhelmed: The Mindfulness Alternative (OOTMA), I offer “must know” mindfulness basics that today’s professional needs in order to thrive in a 24/7 world. The book includes:
a self assessment to understand how you perform at your best
simple routines to reduce stress and sustain your peak performance
a personal planning framework for creating the outcomes that matter most at home, at work and in your community.
I’m humbled that this book has been endorsed by best selling authors like Dan Pink, Adam Grant and Marshall Goldsmith and business leaders like Whole Foods CEO John Mackey, DIRECTV Senior Vice President Linda Simon and GE’s Chief Learning Officer Raghu Krishnamoorthy.
By working together to get the word out on this book, we can make a big difference in the lives and work of a lot of people. Here are the details on the OOTMA Launch Team and how to join.
Team Member Benefits:
As an OOTMA Launch Team member you will get:
1. A free, electronic review copy of the book in advance of the publication date.
2. An exclusive 60 minute Life GPS® call for the Launch Team where I will walk you through how to use the tool that’s at the heart of OOTMA. The call will give you a hands-on taste of some of what I share in Overworked and Overwhelmed.
3. Free downloadable copies of our new Life GPS® Personal Planner and our Overworked and Overwhelmed group discussion guide.
4. Exclusive access to me and other team members via a private Google+ group.
5. A special THANK YOU post on my blog and to my mailing list with a link to your blog or website.
6. A 25% discount on my soon-to-be-released The Insider’s Guide to Coaching Success product. This audio program includes some of the most important lessons I’ve learned about how to build a successful coaching business based on your experience, unique point of view and original content.
Team Member Requirements:
As member of the OOTMA Launch Team you:
1. Help spread the word about the book through your existing platforms including your blog, newsletter, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest starting the week of October 6th.
2. Write a brief review of the book on Amazon and other e-tailer outlets
3. Share ideas and brainstorm additional ways we might share the message with an even greater audience. All ideas are welcome!
Apply through the link below through September 16th to be considered for the OOTMA Launch Team and help us spread the word! Once we receive your application we’ll review it and be in touch by September 18th with more information including an invitation to the exclusive 60 minute call. We’ll activate the OOTMA Launch Team the week of October 6.
Thanks for your continued support and your help with getting the word out about Overworked and Overwhelmed: The Mindfulness Alternative!
Mindful Mondays: How To Keep Your Smartphone From Taking Over Your Life September 8 2014 no responses
As smart phone addicted people around the world await Apple CEO Tim Cook’s introduction of the iPhone 6 tomorrow, perhaps this is a good day to think about how to keep your smart phone from taking over your life. While I was doing the research for my new book, I came across a lot of interesting stats about just how addicted many people are to their phones and how that affects their lives.
For instance, one study I saw reported that the majority of smart phone owners are never more than five feet away from their device. Likewise, many people report that the first thing they do when they wake up and the last thing they do before going to bed is check their phone. Maybe that’s why, as the the Center for Creative Leadership learned in a 2013 study, that the average smart phone enabled executive, manager or professional is connected to their work an average of 72 hours a week.
So, perhaps your smart phone has already taken over your life or maybe it’s about to. Whatever your threat level, here are some ideas for how to reclaim your life from your smart phone.
What Any Leader Can Learn from Pope Francis September 3 2014 no responses
Three of the Most Common Delegation Ah-ha’s August 28 2014 3 responses
One of the biggest shifts that most rising leaders have to make is the shift from being the go-to person to someone who builds teams of go-to people. As you take on more and more scope in your leadership role, you can’t continue to operate as the go-to person who acts as if you’re personally responsible for everything that happens. You need to be accountable and own the results but you can’t expect yourself to do everything that leads to the results.
That, of course, means that you need to be really effective at delegation. Unfortunately, a lot of leaders aren’t that good at it. Too often, they delegate something to a team member and it doesn’t get done well, or on time or at all. One of the big reasons this happens is because too many leaders take a “one size fits all” approach to delegation. As I’ve written here before, effective delegation needs to be custom-fit to the people involved and the tasks that need to be accomplished.
That might sound like a lot of work, but it doesn’t really have to be. For several years now, I’ve been teaching the executives in our leadership development programs how to use a simple delegation checklist I came up with called TRACK™. Using the TRACK checklist, a leader can come up with a really clear picture on how to custom fit the delegation by considering:
- the what’s and why’s of the Task,
- how to make a clear delegation Request,
- what full Achievement would look like,
- the depth and frequency of Check-in’s needed along the way
- and the Knowledge and Kudos that should be gained and shared as a result of the work.
Given time to think about and practice their delegation techniques, the leaders I work with come up with some pretty big ah-ha’s about what would make them more effective in sharing the work with their teams. Here are three of the most common delegation ah-ha’s:
Mindful Mondays: What If We All Hugged It Out? August 25 2014 4 responses
Because I fly a lot for my work, I get upgraded to first class a good bit. Sometimes, it’s just a happy surprise and other times, I’ll use frequent flyer miles to secure a seat up front at the end of a long week of travel.
Last week was one of those long week of travel scenarios. I had a connection at Washington Dulles to catch a late afternoon flight to Los Angeles. My connecting flight to Dulles was late taking off and then got put in a holding pattern over the airport for 45 minutes. By the time we landed and I got my bags, it was five minutes after the door to the LA flight was supposed to close. I decided to make a run for it anyway because I really wanted to get home. After running a half mile through concourse D with my back pack strapped on and my roll aboard trailing behind me. I made it to the gate and was thrilled to see that the door was still open. I wasn’t so thrilled when the gate agent told me that she had just given my first class seat away. I was too out of breath to argue about it and took the seat she gave me.
As I got on the plane, a flight attendant named Catherine greeted me. I mentioned that I had just lost my seat up front and was hoping to get dinner on the plane since I was really hungry. She said that there were snack boxes in coach that I could buy. It was at that point that I said I was pretty upset that the gate agent had given my seat away. And in that moment, Catherine began what was one of the more amazing sequences of human kindness that I have ever encountered.
She looked at me and asked, “Do you want to hug it out?”
Overworked and Overwhelmed? We Have an Offer for You and Your Colleagues August 22 2014 no responses
If you’ve been reading this blog the past few months, you know that I’ve been working on my next book, Overworked and Overwhelmed: The Mindfulness Alternative. There are two questions that people usually ask me when they hear the title of the book. The first is, “When can I read it?” The second is “How does the new book relate to what you’ve been doing?”
On the first question, I’m thrilled to let you know that Overworked and Overwhelmed is now in production and will be available on October 13. On the second question, I view this new book as the logical successor to my first book, The Next Level. The connection is explained in the tag line of the new Eblin Group website we’re launching in a few weeks:
Leadership presence requires being present.
As you can see on our dedicated website about the book, it’s garnered very strong endorsements from best selling leadership experts like Dan Pink and Marshall Goldsmith and business leaders like the Chief Learning Officer of GE. In the same way that The Next Level offers leadership tips that are easy to do and likely to make a difference, Overworked and Overwhelmed makes the principles of mindfulness practical and accessible for stressed-out professionals who think they’re too busy to meditate. Go to the Overworked and Overwhelmed book site now to download a complementary copy of the Introduction to the book.
We’re very confident that this book is going to make a difference for you and your organization so we’re making it very attractive for you to share it with your colleagues. Here are the details. (Please share this post with those who would be interested):